Another European capitol – check!In 2017 I’ve already visited Brussels, Belgium, for two days with one of my closest friends. It was more convenient to meet up there, neither of us had heard much about the city. In fact, there is also not that much to see for tourists. There is a public square with some old buildings, a peeing boy sculpture and a large iron atom. Those are the touristy spots. Flora and I thus spent most of our time strolling around, eating a lot, getting our hair cut and catching up. A lot of catching up.
We had a really great time.
As I get older I am encountering new challenges I did not anticipate. Most of the liberties I’ve gained, such as moving away, making new friends or just the possibility to take a trip to Brussels on a whim, are accompanied by efforts. One of adult life’s main efforts, I have come to learn, is to keep in touch with friends and family.
I love all of my friends. I love spending time with them. I love taking trips with them. However, it is strenuous to keep it up, when we are separated for a longer period of time by distance or busy schedules. By now, I have friends from many different stages of my life: friends from elementary school, high school, church, my exchange year, trips, university, my dorm, and hopefully this list will just keep getting longer. There is nothing greater than making new friends.
However, as a (semi-)adult I am now responsible for keeping all of those wonderful relationships alive. They do not tend to themselves, because we are all going different directions. We make different choices, and that is great! In order to not lose each other in the process, though, we need to ceaselessly make the conscious decision not to do so. We have to text or call each other, ask questions and be interested. That is an effort, and it does not stop.
My trip to Brussels with Flora, however, has shown me once again that the effort is worth it. It is worth friendships. It is worth insider jokes. It is worth spending quality time with quality people.
All of my friends are quality people. If you are one of them and we haven’t spoken in a while: I am sorry. Text me! Tag me under a meme we both find hilarious! Meet me spontaneously in a European capitol! I will be there, because you, my friend, are worth it.
I am just trying to navigate my way through adult life. It is hard some times, but pretty awesome at others.
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